The Pretender

The Pretender

I've been told on many occasions now that I'm really good with words, some of you have actually been far too kind and said that if I do ever write a book you'll love to read it. It makes me happy and scared at the same time. Happy because you seem to enjoy what i write and that's very satisfying indeed but it scares me because when i first started writing it was more for self discovery and less for you readers. It was supposed to be a little insight into what it means to be me. Now I can't help but think I might have gone overboard here.

Many of my friends have started blogging and I like to pretend that I'm probably among the reasons that they did. And so I keep talking to them to understand what is their process, how do they approach a post, what drives them to write. They tell me, almost all of them, that they write about things that they feel about and that  it should be something that they have felt and can relate. I've always made fun of them and told them that words have the power to convey that which you don't even feel and the readers won't even know. They try and defend their position but alas give up mostly because I keep making fun and mocking them.

To you, I say the joke is on me. I was made to believe that I could control words and what they convey, that I'm their master, and they my slave but let me tell you that's not the case. Words, they have a life of their own and nobody can control them. My post you like so much isn't because i wrote them, its because those words seem to fit together. I've always liked to believe that words have the power to create but forgot that they have the power to destroy as well. The age old saying that words once spoken can't be taken back seems to be so true more than ever.

As a child..okay let me re frame my sentence..as the younger brother I had absolutely no control over the remote to the TV and that meant watching whatever my brother wished and fancied. And looking back am i thankful for that because a lot of anomaly in who i'm is because of those things on TV. Things like total disregard for death and the basic human empathy with death. I remember one day an elderly neighbor had died and as in most cases I opened the door and the lady broke the news to me that uncle was no more. I remember running back inside to where my brother and mom were sitting and laughing out loud like really really loud!! When i could finally tell my mom she left the room and brother and i continued to laugh out loud!
when she came back she found us still laughing and finally decided to lock us up in the room till we were done with our laughter.

One of the things i remember is watching a show called "The Pretender", Now I don't remember much about that show but all I can recall is that the protagonist could become anybody he chose to and it blew my mind. This was like as close to magic as possible. I mean at times he would be a fire fighter and then a doctor and he was good at it, not necessarily great but convincingly good and that kinda stuck to me. When asked what i wanted to be..I always thought why not anyone i want to be. I started to learn as many things as i could, not necessarily mastering them but get more n more information about anything and everything from disease to divinity I cover everything..if its worth knowing then I made it a point to know it. And boy has it come in handy for me! :)

It came with its own cost. Now I've always been the smartest one in a room. If it was something I didn't fully understand I had a way of learning it very fast right there..listening, observing people. I count that as my greatest asset till date.

Slowly I became the pretender. I could be anyone at the drop of a hat..from discussing cricket which i have no interest in to music which is very close to me I can be a very aware person on the said topic if not an expert in the field. but I lost part of me with every thing that i did I lost who i was.

I've smiled when I didn't want to. I said things which I knew i didn't believe in. For the people that mattered I became who they needed the most. For some I became the comic, for others I became the philosopher. Most of all I stopped being myself. and now different people have different versions of me.

And i don't know who i am.


I'm so good at what i do that I can convince even myself that if this is how it has to be then with the snap of a finger I become that. The only remorse is that I don't know who i am. I'm surprised how confident people are with what they want and who they are. I want everything and be anyone i want to.

Maybe a I'm asking a little too much..but Such is life.

#7 The College Lessons

We all know that most college learning takes place outside the classroom. You could even make the argument that your weekend parties, various social gatherings, and bedroom excursions ARE in fact your classroom — the places where you’ll accrue the most valuable life lessons.
Below is a list of shit you’ll probably do. Here’s what you’ll get out of them:

The College Lessons

1. Orientation

This is where your college is drastically misrepresented, but the primary purpose of orientation is to prevent any real embarrassing situations and to assure you that you indeed have made the right decision

In another life, the icebreakers and diversity training sessions could actually be semi-interesting and worthwhile. Except, of course, the fact that interest cedes to eagerness, and eagerness is a HUGE no-no when it comes to the tackling the insecurities of first year. Why be interested in something when that cool kid you just met might think it’s the shittiest thing on this side of his college ID? Way too risky.

Lesson Learned

When in doubt, act like you’re above institutional norms. This can only backfire when everyone else is given enough time to formulate their own opinions. Four days is never enough, so you’re good here.

2. Abusing-Porn Addict-Hostel

In which you haven’t totally decided if you want to spend the next couple of years with the kids currently taking turns to pick a girl from down below. They’re cool, but clearly there’s something a bit off here. Also, what is it with the girls just talking to each other until they’re drunk enough to forget that they came into this trying to play hard to get?

Lesson Learned

Without alcohol, the concept of a “Room conferences” applies well beyond College.

3. Unplanned Hookup in a Public Place

If you do this right — meaning, you have no idea what the fuck you’re doing as it’s happening, are half terrified that you might get kicked out of college if you’re discovered, and have scored a girl that isn’t a complete aesthetic catastrophe — you’ll have cemented a solid go-to “craziest night in college” story for the rest of your life.

**The spontaneity of this is crucial — and gets harder to pull off as the years progress.

Lesson Learned

Calculated honesty is highly rewarded here. Know what you could get away with. If she blew you in the somewhat dark, out of the way behind the hostel or near the engineering auditorium, that’s what happened.

4. The First Non-Acknowledgement

Going through college and remaining in contact with all the people you’ve sloppily hooked up with — even if only on a “hey what’s up” passerby basis, is damn near impossible. Therefore, it’s very important to pretend like you don’t know the person that just walked by you. Otherwise, you may have to spend the next two years debating whether or not to look up from your phone every time they’re remotely in your vicinity. Not a hole you want to dig yourself into.

Lesson Learned

There are things that could be put off until the last minute. This is not one of them.

5. Thinking Your Friend Might Die

Most Likely to happen when on your IV.
You’ll likely be on both sides of the coin — but because you won’t remember the tails part we’ll focus on the heads.

He may not have any color left in his face, Breathing heavily — and dumping water on his head may not do anything to wake him up — but thank Mr. Jesus he’s still breathing. A feat so phenomenal, it makes you want to celebrate with an entire bottle of…oh, right.

Lesson Learned

While this isn’t something to put on a babysitting resume, bitch please with claiming your nine-year-old is a piece of work.

6. First Date Party

There is nothing quite like taking a girl you really like to a classy place that could easily pass for a Craigslist listing in Over priced

Yet if done right, this will be one of the more memorable nights of your college experience — and even a bigger one for the girl, who will likely spend the entire week before whispering about it excitedly about it to her friends, who will whisper excitedly back because they’re really jealous and think whispering back excitedly may mask their jealously down to acceptable/undetectable levels.

Lesson Learned

In the long term, College and Hostel will give you lifelong friends, memories, and valuable experiences. In the short term, they project status. First girls go ape shit about these sorts of events, because the sheer exclusivity of it all differentiates them from the rest of the common-room gossiping pack.

As a dude, don’t discount this. Even if you breathe too loud, and kind of know she’s not entirely into you. She’s counting on you much more than you realize.

7. Career Fair

These sorts of events are beyond unbearable, creating what is without a doubt one of the most depressing environments you’ll experience in college.

It’s nearly impossible to leave one of these without completely hating yourself, the world, and the fact that you used the words “Aesthetic Integrity Coordinator” to describe your summer landscaping job.

Lesson Learned
Unless you’re irrationally enthusiastic about learning a few buzzwords that are only there so someone could make it seem like they know what they’re talking about when they really have little to no idea, you’ll never get a job.

If you shout the words “Microsoft Excel” loud enough, you will probably get a job.

8. Someone Else’s Formal

Formals clearly deserve their own article, which will be tackled sometime in the near future. But have you ever been to someone-else-that-wasn’t-your-girlfriend-at-the-time’s formal? MAN are they somewhat cool and somewhat ehh.

Lesson Learned:

If you’re not part of a tight-knit group, people will only put up with you out of courtesy to their friend.

If you’re not part of a tight-knit group, but then get drunk with said tight-knit group, you are now part of the tight-knit group.

9. Bar Trivia

A College adventure, this is where you pat yourself on the back for enduring your friends for the past three/four years. A much bigger accomplishment than you initially realized.

Lessons Learned

Everybody in the world has an intolerable ego.

Even you.

10. Many of Firsts

College will lead you to a many firsts, first kiss, first heart-break, first failure and oh so many of firsts. Learn and Adopt. Not the last time in life. It'll keep hitting you. And in the words of a fav.  "It ain't about how hard you can hit, It's about how hard you can get hit and still move on"


All in all it's the best time you'll have. Make the most of it. Live with no regrets.
Peace!

#6 The Signs

It seemed like the natural progression on my previous post and hence i see it as a fit to feature it here now.
We all struggle with the signs of the universe and with this post maybe we all will stand a better chance.
For you all to devour and smile about :)

#6 The Signs

Here are 11 signs that'll tell you that you love somebody.

1. No matter how much time passes between the last time you saw them and the next time you will see them, either way you can’t wait to see them again. You’re excited to hang out with them and you’re excited to play in their hair, to smell them, to hold their hand.


2. You’re mature enough to know that no relationship is ever perfect. It’s not always going to be good times. There will be fights, disagreements, miscommunications, and there might even be a lull in the relationship itself. But if you really love someone, you have to look past that stuff and think about the future. If you walk in on them sleeping with someone or they send a sex message meant for someone else, THAT’s a different story. No relationship is perfect, and real love will get you through all the hurdles.

3. They do that thing that they do only with you, pull back the strand of hair, hug you ever so tightly that it melts you and it keeps running on your head like a stuck record, no matter where you are or what you do. It keeps playing in your head and it makes you smile and it makes you sad as well.

4. The moment you realize your relationship isn’t about sex. Your partner might have a porn addiction and they are going to masturbate without you. Relationship sex always dwindles because life happens. Stress happens. Erectile disfunction happens. Our relationships are held together by a lot of different things, and sex is only one of the adhesives.

5. When you know you fucked up royally you apologize for it, making sure your partner knows you care. Or if your partner is the one who fucks up, you express your anger and let them know what they did was wrong. But eventually, you remember that people are allowed to make mistakes — even big ones. Nobody is perfect.

6. You can already imagine a future together. You want them to be a part of your life, you want to share new things with them, you care for them. It’s hard for you to not imagine a future together.

7. You don’t feel jealous, either when they make new friends or when they talk about new people. You are secure enough in yourself that you don’t make them feel bad about wanting to hang out with their friends or even go out dancing. These are all things they did before they met you anyway, and you know they need the space to be with you but also without you sometimes.

8. When you spend hours in bed on Saturday night in the company of music and good reads, only with her/him do you want to do anything. The world feels right.

9. You don’t question their every whereabout. You let them do the things they need to do, whether that’s a night out with friends without you or going on a trip, all while understanding that the best way to be in a relationship is to be with someone who is their full self, all the time, and not someone they are pretending to be.

10. Seeing other couples makes you sad and you think about them immediately. Maybe you’re out at a restaurant or some other place, but as soon as you see another couple you feel warm inside, imagine that’s how you two look to other people.

11. Finally, understand that you are home. No matter what happens in the course of a relationship (save of course the absolute worst), you are home. Trust that they love you. Trust that they want to be with you.

#5 The Playbook

I've been asked to write something on these lines for a very long time now and Honestly I think I should have written it a very long time ago. Here is for your reading pleasure :

#5 The Playbook

It seems like everyone’s favorite topic of conversation, including my own, is dating and relationships. My friends are constantly telling me about their latest Cupid nightmare or hangover from their party from last night. Everyone I know is dating,having a crush or getting married (What a waste btw) yet we all can’t stop bitching about it. Well Bros, worry no further. Here are some ways you can separate yourselves from the average Bro and step up your dating game.

1. Plan and initiate the first dates.

If you ask someone out, make a plan. One of the biggest pet peeves that I've come across is when the girl gets asked out on a date, and then the bro says to her, “So, what do you want to do?” Umm, maybe sit on my couch and watch Game of Thrones and maybe think about Jon Snow? But since She does that every other night, She's allowing you to make the decision for her. By accepting a date with you, She is giving up on her control-freak ways and putting her fate of the night into the hands of a (hopefully) competent human being. Dudes, if you are initiating the date (which you should be doing), then you pick the bar, restaurant, or activity that you do. That being said, don’t be a weirdo and choose a date that requires high athletic activity or getting in a bathing suit. If your first date goes well, then contact the person within two days, and ask them out again. Planning and initiating the dates shows that you are assertive, interested, and a go-getter. Plan everything and double check everything to ensure everything plays out the way you have planned it, always have time for "Nothing". This is where if something over runs the time dedicated to it you can eat up this time. I plan everything to the last possible detail from the food to the topics to be discussed, having said it'll take you time for you but doesn't mean you shouldn't. Also most importantly It should look effortless. Don't make it look like you put in a lot of effort, let her be the judge and see the effort on her own. If you are assertive with planning the dates, you are probably also assertive in other arenas.

Get where I’m going with this? Good.

2. Pay for the first date.

The economy still kind of sucks and gender rules are outdated. That does not matter. Men, you pay for the first date. Ladies, be polite and offer to pay tip or split. But men, do not let them. This does not mean that you are misogynistic, it means you are a gentleman. If you really want to suave, pay the bill while she’s in the bathroom so you can just skip the back and forth of how it should be paid. After you’ve gone out a couple times, by all means split the bill — because the economy kind of sucks and gender rules are outdated. This actually solves two problems : a) by paying first she believes she's with someone who can take care of her. b) By letting her pay after a couple of times she will feel you treat her as equal. (Very important)

3. Be polite and put your phone away.

Bros, when you are going on a date, you want to be the best version of yourself. Open the door for your date (car doors are extra bonus points) and do not use the F, B, or C words or combinations of those. Be nice to the employees wherever you are and make sure to tip. The most important thing to remember is to put your phone away and keep it on silent. There is truly nothing shittier than going on a date and the person is on their phone the whole time. For all your date knows, you could be setting up a booty call for later in the night or reading about whether Kim had a baby or did Paris has her new video out. Put the phone down, you Millennial you. The game, Twitter, Facebook, and Instagram can all wait until after your date.

4. Go in for the first kiss sooner rather than later.

If you’ve learned anything from The Little Mermaid, it’s to go on and kiss the girl (or that bestiality can be sexy, hopefully it’s the first). Now this is the tricky part and might need a lot of study and observation but with me its like this the first kiss should happen within the first three dates. If you wait too long, then you may get Friend-Zoned or she may think you’re not interested. A kiss doesn't mean you go all tongue wagging at her, Go in for the kiss if she’s giving you the green light. A lot of men have trouble reading signals; just because she is smiling and laughing does not necessarily mean she wants to go to third base with you. Notice her body language (leaning in and any kind of physical contact is good). Maybe she’ll touch your arm when she laughs at your dumb joke or challenge you to a thumb-war. If she’s touching you, she wants you to kiss her.

A word of caution here : This is after all India and it might or rather already be a very big deal for her so if she is worth the wait then by all means do wait. Your heart shall tell you. if it means something you'll know. How you ask? I'm yet to find out but you'll know when the time is right till then nothing beats the good old hug :)

5. Call, do not text.

Texting conversations are so FYJC. If you want to ask someone out, call them. If you are running late, text them. If you want to chat, call them. If you need an address or directions, text them. Keep texting to a minimum (especially if you’re drunk). Keep drunk texting in college where it belongs next to your porn collection and your ultra sexy chaddi.

6. Good eye contact.

Making strong eye contact shows that you are confident in yourself, and it shows that you are engaged and interested in the conversation at hand. By looking elsewhere, you are disengaging yourself from the conversation whether you mean to or not. Also, if you’re looking around, your date may assume that you’re not interested or even worse, you are checking out other people. It’s rude, it’s annoying, don’t do it. (Please don’t take this advice completely literally, because someone who makes too intense eye contact can also come across as creepy. You don’t need to stare into the depths of your date’s soul, but just show that you’re listening and you care.) FYI a direct eye contact lasting more than 7 seconds means an intention to have sex or murder.

7. Make an effort with friends and family.

This should really go without saying, but some guys are just not so adorably clueless. Guys, when you’re dating a new girl, remember that you’re also kind of dating her best friends too. You have to woo them by being so nice, so friendly, and so funny, without being so over-the-top. If you’re meeting them at a bar, buy them a round of Shots. Talk about how much you like Girls, Grey's Anatomy and 90210 and think it’s absurd that people are criticizing Lena Dunham’s naked body. They’ll like totally love you forever, which will come in handy if your girl is ever having second thoughts about you. If you meet her family, you’ve won her over. You’re officially dating, don’t fuck it up. Especially for me meeting the family is the next step to be honest. I usually don't meet family at all and by meeting I don't mean you talk to her mom when you've gone to pick her or drop her. Actually meeting the parents is a BIG deal for me. You might want to tread with caution here.

8. Compliment your date.

Your date made a large effort to look good for you, and most likely got the approval from her roomies on the perfect outfit to wear for you that borders sexy and skanky, but also cute at the same time. Tell her she looks pretty and smells good. Duh.

9. Do not talk about your ex.

This is a no brainer, but sometimes people word vomit all over their dates and talk about their latest shitty break-up. If you’re not over your ex, do not waste someone else’s time by taking them on a date. If you bring her up, you’re not over it. If you talk shit about her, you’re not over it. If you’re “still friends”, you’re not over it (and maybe they’re still using them as a booty call). Basically, don’t bring it up.

10. Be honest and communicative.

This according to me is the game changer. If you've been dating someone for a bit, and you’re starting to really like her, then tell her. Do not go overboard and start talking about how she’s the nice, next door girl you've been waiting for and how your mom is so excited to meet her at Navratri dinner. Tell her you’re enjoying getting to know her and that you like her. Being honest about your feelings and communicating them in an appropriate and non-creepy way is a fine and important line. The only time you should not be honest with your date is if she asks you if she looks good in a certain outfit. Regardless of how much you don’t like that dress on her, tell her she looks beautiful and thin. If you don’t, you’ll be getting real cozy with your laptop instead of with your date.






Ps : Please note that all of the above is very circumstantial and might actually be very disastrous to say the least so please use caution while following my Playbook :)
Goes without saying that it also depends heavily on your girl as well (if you were smart enough to notice how it depends more on your date without me pointing it out, My friend you have thing going just right for you)

Be Batman : Lessons I've learned !!

I'm a huge fan of BATMAN!!
Yes, I've been told to grow up and that I'm stupid that I let a comic have such a strong influence on me but this post is to all you who think I'm stupid, that I need to grow up. I tried growing up once, It sucked!!
For me Nolan’s Batman movies are more than just action-packed extravaganzas – they’re meditations. Meditations on what it means to be a superhero. Meditations on the nature of civil society and its institutions.

“People need dramatic examples to shake them out of apathy and I can’t do that as Bruce Wayne. As a man I’m flesh and blood. I can be ignored. I can be destroyed. But as a symbol, as a symbol I can be incorruptible, I can be everlasting.”

In Batman Begins, one key aspect of Bruce Wayne’s desire to become Batman is so that he can be a symbol of something. A beacon of hope so that people can aspire to do better. This is a thread that continues through all three films, particularly The Dark Knight Rises, where Batman is honored as the savior of the city, not Bruce Wayne or any one person. Pointedly, Wayne says at the end of the film, “A hero can be anyone.” Indeed, one of the major themes of The Dark Knight Rises is the consequences of the mistake made in The Dark Knight. By holding up Harvey Dent, in particular, as a role model, Batman and Gordon were forced to cover up his crimes committed as Two-Face. That cover-up led to some of the bad things that happened in the third film.
So what do i take from this : Be larger than life in order to move people. Do the grandeur. Be everything that people associate with being Larger than life. Give like you own everything, love like it is insane, live fearlessly, live by ethos, even if it shatters you, go do that which is larger than life.

“It’s not who you are underneath, it’s what you do that defines you.”

This one's a personal favorite, During one memorable scene in Batman Begins, Bruce Wayne is exiting an expensive restaurant, soaking wet with two supermodels in tow. It’s all part of his act to maintain a  ”playboy” image so that nobody suspects he’s Batman. On his way out, he runs across his childhood friend Rachel Dawes, who looks at him condescendingly as Bruce tries to defend himself. “It’s not who I am underneath.” Rachel’s response is pointed: “Deep down you may still be that same great kid you used to be. But it’s not who you are underneath, it’s what you do that defines you.”

We often go through life with the best of intentions. One day, we say to ourselves, we’re going to start going to the gym and become a great athlete. One day, we’re going to finish that book. But for whatever reason, we get distracted by the present and lose our focus on the future. We never do go the gym. We never do write that book.

What am I saying here : Nobody remembers what you meant to do. They only remember what you do. Be good, Be the best you can. The harsh truth of life is that it ain't fair. The good does not always win. You do not get what you deserve. So do what it is that needs to be done. Nobody remembers what you intended to do.

“You have been supplied with a false idol to stop you from tearing down this corrupt city. Let me tell you the truth about Harvey Dent.” 

(Is BANE the coolest or what) At the end of The Dark Knight, Gotham’s District Attorney, Harvey Dent, had gone on a murderous rampage as the supervillain Two-Face. Confronted with this fact, Commissioner Gordon was concerned that the revelation of Dent’s crimes would lead to the people of Gotham losing hope, which would destroy all that he, Dent and Batman had tried to accomplish during the course of the film. Batman agreed, and quickly offered to tell the people of Gotham a lie. Gordon would tell the City that Batman had committed the murders that Dent had. This would allow Dent’s memory to go untarnished. It was upon that memory that the City built up a new Gotham. But not one that truly dealt with crime – one that merely pushed it underground. In The Dark Knight Rises, the truth about Batman and Dent is revealed to be a lie that corroded the foundation of Gotham’s institutions. At the end of the film, a new Gotham is built on a truth – that Batman is a hero. And that “a hero can be anyone.”

You need to know this :  it can be tempting to keep the truth to yourself. Especially if things aren't going well, there’s a fear that telling the truth might incite people to leave or give less than what they’re capable of. It also might mean that you don't trust your people and I can't stress it more that it kills someone so close to you to be felt as an outsider. We all have wolfs within us, that dark side of us that we think might scare off people but that's the beauty of truth. It might sting and sting real hard but sooner than later it'll heal. There is nothing more comforting than the truth. You'll feel liberated.

Love all and let yourself to be loved as well, it is only after this can you truly stop existing and start living.

“You do not fear death. You think this makes you strong. It makes you weak …  How can you move faster than possible, fight longer than possible without the most powerful impulse of the spirit: the fear of death?”

During the mid-point of The Dark Knight Rises, Bruce Wayne is trapped in a hellish prison. It’s a prison made terrible, says his enemy Bane, because it offers hope. There is a pit leading to the surface that the inmates can try to escape from. The only problem? Only one prisoner ever made it – a child. Wayne makes two escape attempts and fails both time at the same point – a point where he has to make a jump that seems impossible for a person to make. In discussing the jump, Wayne reveals to a fellow prisoner that he isn't afraid of death. His fellow prisoner chastises him for this – pointing out that it’s the fear of death that will drive you to “move faster than possible, fight longer than possible.”

Lesson learned, Bruce Wayne makes a third attempt to escape. Only this time, he had no safety harness to catch him if he fell. And with that, he was able to make the leap and climb to freedom.

What am I saying here : First a little clarification, I don't fear death, having seen it from close I don't fear it one bit. But I do have my fears. And that's the message.

Fear is a good thing!
using the cliche line " if the optimistic built the plane then the fear of death drove the pessimist to make the parachute". Both inventions are equally thanked for by humanity.

Human beings are naturally risk-averse. Indeed, a number of psychological studies have shown that people are more likely to prevent the chance of loss than they are to chase a reward – even if the end result is identical.

I let my fears not take control of me but I control my fear (well okay there's one fear that consumes me every single day, every single moment). I let my fears feed off me and when I need it I get that extra push or extra dash of energy from these fears of mine, The fear of failing, the fear of letting down. they are great slaves never let them be masters.

I fail to understand how people give up. They give excuse that it was the only thing left. I feel sad for them. I for one can never understand failure. To me it only means get up, dust yourself, new strategy, new approach.

So don't let fear consume you but control it and harness it.Sometimes, in order to win, you have a take a risk – even if that means jumping without a safety harness.

This one is very personal to me and I'm still trying to learn and I wish I wouldn't have to but alas it seems I must keep trying.

In the movie Dark Knight, when Harvey Dent and Rachel are both held hostage by joker, Gordan is left with no option but to let Batman go at Joker. Batman then interrogates the Joker in a brutal fashion until the Joker intentionally reveals that Rachel and Dent have been taken to opposite sides of the city, far-enough apart that Batman does not have time to save both of them. Bruce speeds off to save Rachel, while Gordon and the police head after Dent.

This is where Batman is still Bruce Wayne. He couldn't help but go after Rachel. That's the thing about choices. They fuck you up real bad. Choices are not always easy and they don't always end up right. and so unknown to them, the Joker has switched the locations, sending Batman after Dent and Gordon after Rachel. Rachel and Harvey, tied to chairs, are able to communicate through an intercom. The two reassure each other that everything will be okay. The Joker provokes a police-officer to attack him and manages to hold him as a hostage and walk out of the room and into the main lobby. Then, with the help of a pre-planted phone bomb, the Joker escapes with Lau in tow. Rachel tells Dent that she will marry him just as Batman arrives at the location that was supposed to be Rachel’s location and rescues Dent. Then both buildings explode; the left side of Dent's face ignites during the explosion due to the oil he fell into earlier, severely disfiguring that side.

Gordon does not reach Rachel in time; she dies in the explosion. Bruce feels guilty for the death of Rachel and for what has happened to Dent stating he is "Gotham's true hero" and Alfred tells him that Gotham will have to make do with Batman;

The choice took away his Love. If only Bruce wasn't Batman. If only He didn't have the burden. Harvey wanted Rachel to be saved. It was his and Batman's choice but it wasn't to be. It gave rise to Two-Face. 

What am I trying to convey here: Life is all about choices. And you will not get it right every time. Life isn't all black and white, there's also a lot of grey. We are nothing but the choices that we have made over time. let me give you my example so that you know this shit is true. I'm dark colored but I wasn't always like this. It's the result of the choices that I made. I would leave home at the middle of the day when the temperature outside would be upwards of 42 degrees and just wander. I would meet people who were labors, scavengers, would play with kids on sand. I knew more people that fell in the category of people that elders wouldn't want kids to be with but it was a choice that I made. Do i regret it : Hell NO!. I'm whoever I am today because of choices like these.
Accept the choices but know that the consequences of those are also yours and even if you'd wish the outcome to be different you can't control that.   

“And why do we fall, Bruce? So we can learn to pick ourselves up.”

One running theme of Nolan’s Batman trilogy is the idea of failing. It first appears at the beginning of Batman Begins, when a young Bruce Wayne falls into a well full of bats. Upon rescuing him, his father simply notes that the reason we fall is “so we can learn to pick ourselves up.” Something that’s echoed by Alfred to an older Bruce Wayne when he’s nearly killed by the League of Shadows. And of course, it’s the entire story of The Dark Knight Rises after Batman’s defeat at the hands of Bane. Rather than destroy himself, Bruce Wayne escapes from the prison that he’s put in and reclaims the mantle of Batman and vanquishes the threat to Gotham.

So here is the thing to note :No matter how hard you try to succeed, it’s inevitable that you’re going to fail at some point in your life. The test, though, is how that failure is handled. Some leaders make excuses. Others try to shift the blame.

True greatness, though, comes with owning and embracing failure. Because only when you accept responsibility for your mistakes can you learn from them, pick yourself up, and come back stronger and better than before. In his famous speech at Stanford University, Steve Jobs spoke about firing from Apple. He said this, “The heaviness of being successful was replaced by the lightness of being a beginner again, less sure about everything. It freed me to enter one of the most creative periods of my life. I’m pretty sure none of this would have happened if I hadn't been fired from Apple. It was awful-tasting medicine, but I guess the patient needed it.”

In other words, Steve Jobs learned to pick himself back up.

So did Bruce Wayne. 

And so can you because Such is Life.  

#4 Get Drunk!

I'm having a writer's block currently if i can call it that, I have this amazing thing I want to write about but dunno if my readers are ready for it or is it cos I'm afraid of not doing justice to this topic i want to write about. Maybe cause the topic is too close to me that I'm afraid I might end up writing more than I should.
But Please I'm not afraid of failures just afraid of not trying n giving up and being forgotten. I promise to write that post but for now this is what i have.

#4 Get Drunk

One should always be drunk. That's the great thing; the only question. Not to feel the horrible burden of time weighing on your shoulders and bowing you to the earth, you should be drunk without respite.

Drunk with what?? with wine, with poetry, with love, with music, or with virtue, as you please. But get drunk.

And if sometimes you should happen to be awake, on the stairs of a place, on the green grass of a ditch, in the dreary solitude of your own room, and find that your drunkenness is ebbing or has vanished, ask the wind and the wave, ask star, bird, or clock, ask everything that flies, everything that moans, everything that flows, everything that sings, everything that speaks, ask them the time; and the wind , the wave, the star, the bird and the clock will all reply: " It is time to get drunk! if you are not to be the martyred slaves of time, be perpetually drunk!

With wine, with poetry, with love, with music or with virtue, as you please.

#3 The Hidden Commandments !!

Honestly my life's in a mess right now and i have not much to say and my usual posts shall take a longer time than i can devote right now. Having quit twitter and learning or rather "unlearning" to Facebook
Everyday I look for life's little joy..giving chocolates to kids at shivaji park...eating more ice creams than i should be.. I'm giving myself a reason to smile and looking for reasons to smile..Hope this light read brings a smile to your face.

#3 The Hidden Commandment

Girls need to realize: 

1) We guys don't care if you talk to other guys. We don't care if you're friends with other guys. But when you're sitting next to us, and some random guy walks into the room and you jump up and tackle him, without even introducing us, yeah, it pisses us off. It doesn't help if you sit there and talk to him for ten minutes without even acknowledging the fact that we're still there.

2) We don't care if a guy calls or texts you, but at 2 in the morning we do get a little concerned. Nothing is that important at 2 a.m. That it can't wait till the morning. Also, when we tell you you're pretty/beautiful/ gorgeous/cute/ stunning, we freaking mean it. Don't tell us we're wrong. We'll stop trying to convince you. 

3) The sexiest thing about a girl is confidence. Yeah, you can quote me. Don't be mad when we hold the door open. Take Advantage of the mood im in. Let us pay for you! dont 'feel bad' We enjoy doing it. It's expected. Smile and say 'thank you.

4) Kiss us when no one's watching. If you kiss us when you know somebody's looking, we'll be more impressed. You don't have to get dressed up for us. If we're going out with you in the first place, you don't have to feel the need to wear the shortest skirt you have or put on every kind of makeup you own. We like you for who you are and not what you are. Honestly, i think a girl looks more beautiful when she's just in her pj's. or my tshirt and boxers, not all dolled up.

5) Don't take everything we say seriously. Sarcasm is a beautiful thing. See the beauty in it. Don't get angry easily. Stop using magazines/media as your bible. Don't talk about how hott Chris Brown, Brad Pitt, or Jesse McCartney is in front of us. It's boring, and we don't care. You have girlfriends for that.

6) Whatever happened to the word 'handsome'/'beautiful' i'd be utterly stunned by a girl who greeted me with 'Hey handsome!' instead of 'Hey baby/ stud/ cutie/ sexy' or whatever else you can think of. On the other hand im not sayin i woulndnt like it ether ; ) 

7) Girls, I cannot stress this enough: if you aren't being treated right by a guy, dont wait for him to change!!!!! Ditch his sorry butt, disgrace to the male population and find someone who will treat you with utter respect Someone who will honor your morals. Someone who will make you smile when you're at your lowest. Someone who will care for you even when you make mistakes. Someone who will love you, no matter how bad you make them feel. Someone who will stop what they're doing just to look you in the eyes....and say 'i love you' ..and actually mean it. Give the nice guys a chance

8) Smile. Not only does it make you look even prettier but it also makes us feel that the smile is only for us. :)

9) Tell us. We are not mind readers, if there's something bothering you please tell us and No puzzles please. We shall always be possessive of you. Let us be.

10) We love being superheroes, Please let us walk on the road while you walk on the sidewalk. It makes us feel good about ourselves. Let us carry your bags, open jars. In all this we are never questioning your capabilities. Let us be your savior. Your knight in shining armor. We will make mistakes. Please be patient with us.

As i finish writing this i realize now I'll have to do a girls version of this as well.
Inputs for the same are more than welcome :D

A Culture of Rape.

That says it all.
What is happening in this country is in front of everyone to see. And I'm ashamed but more outraged than ashamed!!

She was only 5 years old.
Now what was it: her dress?? maybe the time of the evening?? maybe she had a boyfriend? or maybe its what she drank?
Hey wait-a-minute hold on!!! wasn't a new more stricter rape law passed recently..tell you what roll it and shove it up your arse. Get all those policemen off neta security duty and save the treasure of this ugly excuse for a country.

All those bharat is different from India ideology wale people, This is also your culture. It fills me with anger seeing that truly the culture of this country is a Rape Cultural. Oh and we ban porn like that is going to solve anything.

Tell me one reason why women of this country shouldn't take arms in their own hands. I always knew my country is a country of great thinkers but never when it comes to doing anything. We are not good at execution of anything!!

In a country where the government is under a coalition headed by a woman, in a state which has a woman as its Chief Minister it is indeed shameful. That poor girl, for no crime of her's is battling for her life.

Is it just an irony that we call our country our Motherland. Can't even protect our sisters, mothers and girlfriends.

I was recently attending this play that tried to shed some light on the topic of female sexuality with a dash of humor. I enjoyed it thoroughly but at one point during the play i felt ashamed, i had to look down at myself.
When the artist asked the audience to say the hindi translation for the word Vagina. No one could and I was ashamed that I knew but couldn't recall and the final nail in the coffin was when she placed some statistic saying that in all metros that they conducted a survey no one knows the hindi word for it.The Hindi word for Vagina isn't Choot  but Yoni and i was ashamed because i knew this but couldn't recall cause maybe I was so used to the word Choot that it didn't even seem derogatory. And here I was thinking I was better then those people.

Guys we should be ashamed of ourselves but i know right now some guy out there is bragging how he is a stud for fooling so many girls and suddenly the girl is a slut because well she did the exact same thing but we have our head way up our arse to realize whats right from wrong.

I read people demanding that the ACP be sent to jail. Bullshit!! That guy probably was doing his duty but is now the Scapegoat.

Forget Kashmir for now, we'll fight for it later but now get the army to protect the women we worship as goddess, the women we name our rivers after..our shops..our buildings.

There was a bomb blast in Boston not many days from today and they are started a manhunt for the suspect as i write this i also read that one has been captured and killed and that the other wouldn't last long. I don't care for the money stacked at Switzerland, eat that money but for god's sake protect our better halves.

My family always have and still continue to teach me that being good is more important than being successful and all I want to do now is to change this rape cultural of ours.
Guys a gentleman never harms his girl or any girl. Be worthy for the girl you want and she'll want you with all she has.

More than ever i wish I was Batman!

May that girl survive. and may those guilty be brought to justice.
And remember JUSTICE DELAYED is JUST-ICE, cold without feelings.

I hope more than ever that Such wasn't Life.!

#2 And then the one on Love

Continuing my promise to write shorter and more direct posts with the intention to be more connected with myself here is the next post in the series :

#2 And Then The One On Love

When I first fell in love with you, I couldn't stand being apart with you for a week, then it was a day, and then an hour, and then a minute. Now, I can't stand being away from you for a second. And when we are apart, I miss you terribly. My heart aches to be with you again, my skin longs to feel your touch, and my eyes wish to gaze into yours. I want to fall helplessly into your arms, and have you hold me there, close to you, forever.

#1 The Pilot

Now my last post got a feedback that i wrote it a bit too long and Well I've heard you and I plan to change that.
Starting today I'm going to do these small ones although my originals shall continue the way they are but these are more direct and more NOW.
And this post is just that. this is me NOW.

#1 The Pilot

At the end of the day we all just want somebody who "gets" us. Somebody we can trust, depend on, grow, and have fun with . Sure it's hard going for what you know, especially knowing you've been wrong before. But it's even harder going nowhere, just because your scared to be wrong again. You may not have time for a relationship, but at least make time to have something real and be patient enough to let it grow. Don't over think yourself out of something special.

The masks we wear

For anyone who even knows me remotely know just how much a big fan i'm of Batman and music.
Some might call it almost beyond normal and might say I need clinical help. And I'm honestly not bothered by that because someone once told me "Life mein koi ek cheez ka nasha hona chahiye" and I so believe that. That one thing that drives you crazy. The one that makes you do stupid things.

Maybe it comes from a childhood of failures and hatred or maybe just coz I was always been the sidekick. The little one among the grown ups. I've been almost drowned in water more than once, Been in a life threatening situation more than once. Never have i been this troubled. Most of the answers in my life have come out of a comic book superhero or a piece of music. I've been brought up in a family, who still points out that being a good human comes before being a successful one, and that putting in your best at anything is more then the final result, that sometimes the most deserving have to loose, that it ain't about how hard you can hit. It's about how hard you can get hit and still move on.

Everything I do is to redeem myself. Everything. For a guy going to school in a leather jacket to one who waits for people because no one else would. I've come a long way with a long left to cover. Gotta keep myself calm but the truth is you're gone. Sure I wish I could do things differently. And there are days when I lose and I look down because on such days I wasn't as good or as great as i rather be. I know one thing that music is the home and the remedy for all my pains. In the words of Sheldon with the right amount of research capital I could be Batman.I'm tryna make myself proud of what I am. Do everything I can and hope that I end up there with God. Looking down and they know they're  were your heart and you were their armor.

I ask people a lot of questions always looking for answers for myself. but i realize that, it's not how that works. One must look for answers themselves. It's like the Bat isn't something I chose, It's my redemption. 

I've done a lot of things and at one time was the baddest bad ass that most of you would ever meet. And my brother once told me chose a side, be the worst possible or the best you can don't be in the middle. Should have picked a side.

If you could see me now would you recognize me? Would you pat me on the back or would you criticize me? Would you follow every line on my tear stained face, Put your hand on a heart that's was cold and make it beat again. They used to say I won't know I will until it cost me, Like I won't know real love till I've loved then I've lost it. They say bad things happen for a reason But no wise words gonna stop the bleeding.

I was once told Don't try to be Superman if you don't know how. Well I have a Kryptonite now. Does That count??

The mask I wear is not for myself but for the ones I love.

Such is Life.

You don't always win, and sometimes even after winning you feel as if you have lost.

I want to smash my fears, And get drunk in off my tears. Don't you share your smile with anyone else but me,I wanna touch your heart, wanna Make a plea and cry as I give up all

We're not lovers, but more than friends and If had my ways I'd put our flame to every single word you ever said.

In the words of a personal favorite "Someone like you and all you know and how you speak...."

Such Is Life.