The two faces of the coin!!

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Life will always keep you on your toes...on most occasions without even you knowing thats it's actually happening...

Here i was taking in the festivity around me...having a gala time with ganpati bappa...we are celebrating it here in my hostel as well. there is a air of happiness and  fun all around..ganpati bappa is said to be the one who helps in all our suffering plus ganeshotsav also marks the official start of the festival season here in india.. he is also known as Vign harta or the remover of all trouble...there is an ancient story that says lord Ganesh (son of lord shiva) was given a  Vardaan  or a blessing that before anyone prays to any god he shall be worshiped first. So no matter which god you are trying to invoke we always pray to ganpati bappa first. well this was as the title says the first face of the coin.

it was Sunday  n i was returning to my hostel from dinner...listening to my music player. now i get a lot of texts daily on my cell mostly news update or forwarded msgs from friends....so even on this occasion i got a couple of texts back to back but ignoring them as mere news updates i continued to listen to my music...When finally i decided to read them...i didn't think in my wildest dream what was in store for me.

My friends had texted me to inform about the sad demise of one of our friends...she had just this year joined a medical college for her MBBS. Sad as it was i couldn't react to it in a way that people would call as normal. I was stunned....these are the kind of news that i had grown to reading in papers...never had i imagined that it would happen to someone i knew. What  a waste of life....even in death i'm sure it wasn't peaceful for her as she drowned herself.

i spoke to a couple of friends and all were equally shocked and stunned. some even had tears in their eyes. but of all the things that i would have liked to change...i think i would most definitely would like to be given a chance to treat her better. we ever never more than just acquaintances or some common friends but somehow all that changed.

The Departed soul according to my mother has it easy...she has left this world....the real suffering is to those who are left behind...her family her well-wishers...who now will have to live knowing that she's never coming back.

" may god give strength to her family in these difficult and tough times, and may her soul rest in peace"

hardly  the two faces to the same coin that anyone would want....but then  SUCH IS LIFE.

The "Venus" Man!!!

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All of us know the famous line which goes "Men are from mars and Women from Venus"

For obvious reasons it has always remained like that but I've always felt that I am an exception to this rule. To sound realistic I've always had a good run with the opposite sex.Always played "hitch" for my friends but never had it goin for myself...because I feel it's easier to analyze a situation if it's not directly affecting you or maybe our emotions or prejudices don't make us bias....anyways the point I'm trying to make is that this division between the two sexes is not necessarily true...

One of the basic problem with both the male and female kind is:: a) As per my findings the male will always aim for a girl who is way out of his reach..thus all his tries would be futile coz it's not just meant to be..the same effort for someone else could have borne desired results much before than expected
b) the female being the better thinker ( Yes i agree women think better...men depend more on his instincts to drive him) come up with the most unrealistic of events or lets say path that the said person must tread on if he wishes to win her heart.

these are my personal view and may not be applicable to a generalized public coz no two snow flakes are the same and it goes the same way for human beings.

Rain rain go away...!!!

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Ever since my doctor told my to stay clear of the rains.....the gods have been particularly kind to me. it rained continuously when i was with my parents for a short while back due to my illness. And even when i came back to my hostel it's still raining....

As it is I've never been really found of the monsoon season, add to that the fact that my campus is being dug up for some renovation and modernization work..it seems our Union Minister for HRD Mr. Kapil Sibal will be coming to visit our college campus for some opening ceremony or something...anyways all the digging has left behind mud and debris all over....and the rain is making it not at all easy for us...

the rains in Mumbai are particularly weird...once you have experienced it you start to question why our noble ministers want to transform Mumbai into Shanghai when it's already more like London....read it in the papers that this time the monsoon withdrawal is likely to be delayed :(

although it's been raining more than last year but still the BMC has enforced a water cut which directly translates into the fact that there is not even drinking water in our hostel....
the other big problem with the monsoons is the sudden increase in our friends from the insect kingdom....some  slimy others full of bad smell..

Anyways rains do have their own benefit especially in a place like Mumbai.....if it rains too much rest assured that the lectures will be called off leaving us to have more fun.....

hoping that the rains stop."give me some sunshine....enough with the rains"

it pays to speak in English!!!

It's strange but it's true...when the Britisher's finally left India for good..i think they  left partly because they were to an extent successful in making even the half naked fakir speak their tongue...And some 60 years later..We Indian came back like never before and now the world can't stop from needing our help(read outsourcing, proper grammar, cheap but skillful workforce ).

Anyways even in our day to day life i often come across strange  instances where the language in discussion made a helluva difference.

it may seem strange but recently i read somewhere that an actual research finding suggested just what i'm trying to say here....IT PAYS TO SPEAK IN ENGLISH.

Not that i have lost respect for my national language....it still has it's charm...but even that is going through a change. Hindi spoken in certain way seems more "cool" rather than how we actually used to talk.
Also the rise of HINGLISH (thats HINDI mixed with English for those still living in caves) is not easy to ignore.Don't trust me try this simple test..ask any friend to talk to you only in english for the next 1 hr, i bet he'll not be able to do that even if he studied in a convent all his life....now try the other way around ask him only to speak in Hindi and trust me the end result would be the same.

it's really funny yet fascinating to actually observe such changes.

looking for the sliver lining

Being bedridden for a month changed my perspective on a lot of things...........
i always felt the need to be in control..but this disease taught me that it's not always possible...imagine being butt-naked in a room full of strangers and asking your roomie to help you with it....i had that experience, which made me believe that life really is so insignificant when it came to living. i was on top of my game, having the time of my life until bang i the speed breakers really made it clear that god has different plans for me.

Another really important thing that i learned is that we are not the center of the universe that most of us assume our selfs to be. when i was bedridden for 1 month....the world didn't stop for me nor did it wait for me to get back up...truly survival of the fittest. things were as normal as if nothing had happened and here i was hoping that it'll all change once everyone knew that i was sick, on hindsight i feel like laughing at myself and thinking all that i thought.

one advice to all that i experienced first hand is "never give up, never give in"...no matter how difficult times may be just hold on a bit longer.... coz the night is the darkest just before dawn.